Women of Wisdom Conference 2014 Blog Post

Whenever I think of riding the wave of the heart, I imagine a surfer on the Northshore of Hawaii skillfully riding a huge ocean wave, balancing her body as she blissfully rides to shore. 

How many falls, how many crashes before she was able to stand up and feel the bliss of that amazing ride?  What passion drove her to keep paddling and get back on the board to see if this time she could do it?

Our hearts hold the fire of our passions and longings.  According to the HeartMath Institute, the electromagnetic field of the heart is the most powerful in the human body.  The heart’s biofield is 5000 times more powerful than the energy field of our brain and is in constant communication with all our bodily systems and organs.  Permeating every cell and extending 8 to 10 feet beyond our bodies, the rhythmic waves of our heart impact every aspect of our thoughts, behaviors, and well being.   

How well do you ride the waves of your heart?  There are times when riding the wave of the heart is sheer bliss.  Love, Joy, and Gratitude fill you to overflowing and coherent waves of positive emotion radiate through and beyond your body.  Life is effortless.  Other times, riding the wave of the heart is neither comfortable nor easy.  When you feel angry or upset, your energies become incoherent, sending out chaotic waves of energy that negatively affect your physical, emotional, and relationship well being.  Hurt and pain can feel intolerable.  You feel tossed about in rough seas.

Especially in the arena of human relationships, many of us find ourselves struggling to maintain our balance. We long for loving connection and too often feel not heard, seen or understood.  A relationship that begins with powerful feelings of love and the vision of a blissful forever may fall short, resulting in frustration and disappointment.  

Not only individuals but also families, communities, and nations struggle with conflicts and misunderstandings.  Today we know that the human brain is enormously plastic, capable of growing and changing throughout our lifetimes.  At the same time, years of habitual thinking and behaviors are grooved into our brains and neurology.  Often the longings of our heart and the limited beliefs and habitual behaviors stored in our brains and neurobiology keep us stuck in unrewarding patterns. 

In the WOW workshop I’m presenting Sunday February 16,2014 on Sacred Relationship–Understanding Your Love Map, you’ll learn how childhood adaptations to your family environment influence your relationships today–for good or ill. You’ll learn about 3 relationship styles and understand the experiences that shape your love map. You’ll identify beliefs and behavior patterns ingrained in your brain and neurobiology that create challenges to loving, intimate connection.

Human beings are hardwired for love. To thrive we need warm, tender responses.  We need to be held, cuddled, talked to, and delighted in. If you were fortunate enough to have an attuned and warmly responsive caregiver, you developed a secure connection.  If your caregiver was not so attuned, you developed a less secure, more anxious connection.  Secure or insecure connections lay the foundation for the mental maps we follow in our significant relationships today.  

Using your old love map when it’s outdated, no longer serves you. Through greater awareness and new skills learned during my workshop, you’ll be able to update your map and take steps to greater fulfillment.  With practice, you’ll be like that surfer on the Northshore skillfully riding the wave of your heart to true intimacy.  

I look forward to seeing you on Sunday February 16 1:30 PM-4:30 PM.